Iâ€™m a sunshine person and full of confidence but even before starting my talk I start to think, what am I going to say.
In sharing that with you thinking moment by moment can have a direct impact upon how weâ€™re feeling in the moment. One moment Iâ€™m thinking Iâ€™m a secret agent full of confidence and the next Iâ€™m preparing myself nervously trying to think of the next move. It then comes down to in that moment how much do I believe of it to be true. Thinking that I believe to be true in that moment becomes my experience and then reality.
When I was asked by Jacquie to speak at the conference I didnâ€™t hesitate to do so. Of course I did. It was because the majority of my professional life has been centred around working with women. Where in the past I have always said that you should live the best life that you can live. As I have had a clearly, expanding experience I realise there isnâ€™t a best you that you can get to. You are already there. Itâ€™s just thinking that we believe to be true in the moment, we create a persona, we hide the magnificent awesomeness that we all already are.
Thatâ€™s why one of the reasons that I wanted to talk about confidence as a facilitator, as a coach, owning my own business, I will go to business networking events where I listen to people saying â€œHi my name isâ€¦â€ followed by their experience and certifications. But this is almost always followed up by â€œI wish I had the confidence to take my businessâ€¦â€ and Iâ€™m thinking how can that be. They present, they look, they feel so confident but in essence itâ€™s the thinking that we believe to be true moment by moment is created ourselves. In that moment after all those networking events, Iâ€™m thinking how do you not know that youâ€™re confident.
Whilst talking to Jacquie a couple of weeks ago, not only to reflect on why I chose this topic. But also on my own journey of being able to stand here and say that I am awesome. Not just to say it but to know that it is true.
I recognised that it was that thinking of I believe to be true, its what is the thinking that I am taking on myself. What is the thing that I am covering up that wonderful spiritual nature of me that has always been there. Since I was a baby up until the age of two when I wasnâ€™t bothered whether I was wearing an Aldi nappy or a Marks and Spencers nappy. It wasnâ€™t an issue. The meaning is to realise that youâ€™ve always had all the confidence that you have ever needed.